Last week one of our advanced students, a Mr. Sammy, told the class that one example of respect is “not blaming others.” I thought this was brilliant. Sometimes it seems so easy to be critical of others; I guess this is why it is important to have another person edit our writing. However, to me, a big part of being a martial artist is adopting a compassionate outlook. One of the great things about the martial arts is that students really learn to work well with others. Here are a few questions we want our students asking themselves when working with partners, especially when they feel that their partner has made a “mistake.”
1.) Have I ever made a mistake before?
2.) Is it possible that I have made some mistakes of which I am not even aware?
3.) How can I help this person in a manner that will help them to feel good about themselves?
4.) How can I maximize our training time together?
5.) If I feel that they are doing the technique incorrectly, how can I express that to them in a kind and respectful manner?